Some women falsely believe that menopause signals the end of their sex lives. Nothing could be further from the truth. Menopause is the end of fertility. It is not the end of a woman being a sexual being that requires intimacy and affection. The simple fact of the matter is that orgasm after menopause is quite possible.
While achieving orgasm after menopause is possible, it might not necessarily be as easy to achieve as it was in the pre-menopausal days. There are some physical changes that go along with menopause that make this so. Some of the issues that might need to be overcome include:
- Lack of desire. The simple fact of the matter is that libido can decrease incredibly with menopause. The hormonal changes that take place during this time of life tend to make sexual desire drop a whole lot.
- Pain and dryness. When estrogen levels decrease, vaginal dryness is quite common. Unfortunately, this can lead to painful intercourse.
- Weight gain. The water retention and weight gain that can sometimes go along with the menopausal stage might add to a feeling of lack of attractiveness.
- Feeling changes. Arousal and orgasm might be harder to attain after menopause arrives. The hormonal changes are generally to blame for this.
- Fatigue. Hot flashes, night sweats, insomnia, mood swings and irritability can all add up to fatigue. This can quite often add to a reduced sexual drive. Extremely tired people don’t necessarily have the greatest interest in intercourse.
While there are obstacles that stand in the way of orgasm after menopause, each of them can be overcome in one form or fashion. Women who want to enjoy normal sexual activity following menopause will find certain steps they take can help. These include:
- Letting go of the “taboo” – Just because menopause has arrived, doesn’t mean a sex life needs to be over. Couples can be and very likely should remain intimate. Unless there is a medical condition that prevents sexual activity, taboo need not apply here.
- Positive self-image. Women who work to retain their self-esteem and take menopause with the right attitude tend to do a bit better embracing sex after its arrival. It might take a little time to get used to the changes, but rest assured it can be done. The right attitude can go a long way in helping increase libido and arousal possibilities.
- Compensating for the estrogen loss. Hormone replacement therapy may or may not be the answer, but there are other options, too. Lubricants can help with the pain and dryness. Kegel exercises are useful for helping the body retain its muscle tone and can even help in the production of natural lubricants.
- Increased foreplay. Menopausal women might require extra stimulation to achieve arousal. Increased foreplay, cuddling and coaxing when mixed with proper lubricants can go a very long way. This can also help with the attainment of orgasm after menopause. The truth is achieving an orgasm might be harder than it once was, but it is not at all out of the question.
While sex after menopause might be a bit different than it was before, orgasm after menopause is more than possible. Women and their partners very likely need to exercise patience with each other, but it will be worth it for maintaining intimacy and closeness.
It is very important for women to remember that pregnancy is still possible in the pre-menopausal stage. It is typically recommended that some form of birth control remain in the picture for at least 12 months after the last menstrual cycle. Measures, of course, should be taken to prevent sexually transmitted diseases if they are a concern with the partner involved.
With patience, persistence and some measures of compensation, orgasm after menopause is quite feasible. It’s wise to be prepared for some differences in drive and sensation, but many couples find sex after “the change” is just as enjoyable if not more so than it was before.